In a recent interview with GQ Hype Spain, 30-year-old singer Demi Lovato announced that she has gotten tired of using “they/them” pronouns, which she described as “exhausting,” and so she has decided that she will be switching back to using “she/her” pronouns.
According to Lovato, it was “absolutely exhausting” to continually tell people why she used those pronouns, saying, “I constantly had to educate people and explain why I identified with those pronouns. It was absolutely exhausting.” Despite being worn out by the use of them, she said that she would continue pushing the idea, saying, “I just got tired. But for that very reason I know that it is important to continue spreading the word.”
The GQ Hype Spain article, describing why Lovato chose to use the “they/them” pronouns for a few years, said, “In 2021, she shared with the world that she is pansexual (the attraction to all individuals, regardless of her gender) and a non-binary person. She neither recognized herself in the masculine nor in the feminine . . . She communicated that she would respond to the pronouns they / them, which in Spanish is equivalent to elle.”
Similarly, she said during the interview that she will use her massive Instagram account, which has more than 150 million followers, to fight “transphobia” in the 2024 election season, presumably by advocating for leftist candidates. Speaking on that, she said, “When election season comes around, I will encourage people to get out and vote. It’s the only way we can really make a difference. For example, it seems very important to me to help as much as I can to combat transphobia.”
Further emphasizing why using “they/them” as her pronouns was “exhausting,” why she will continue advocating about the issue, and what features of daily life made identifying in that way all the more annoying and tiresome, Lovato then said: “I face this every day. For example, in public toilets. Having to access the women’s bathroom, even though I don’t completely identify with it. I would feel more comfortable in a genderless bathroom. Or it also happens when filling out forms, such as government documents or any other where you have to specify your gender.”
Continuing on that point, Lovato added that the binary idea of gender is itself a problem and is something that doesn’t make sense to her, though she now says that she is a woman on forms because that is what she was “conditioned” to choose, saying: “You only have two options, male and female, and I feel like none of that makes sense to me. I see myself conditioned to choose a woman because there are no more. I think this has to change. Hopefully with time there will be more options.”
She also buoyed the now mostly forgotten and dead #MeToo movement, saying that it awakened younger generations to the abuses of power in the entertainment industry and forced people to understand that such acts are no longer “socially acceptable.” In her words: “Thanks to the #MeToo movement and those very brave people who shared their experiences, I would say that this generation is more aware than mine about what it means to take advantage of someone and commit abuse of power. Before there were socially acceptable things that today are not, something that I appreciate.”
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